SMILF: “I’m Done”
Today is the big day. The day that we take the kids back to E’s house after us having them for four days. That is two days longer than normal so I think it was interesting for all involved. I, however, have been able to escape had to come to work the past two days so I have not had the 24/7 kids like Robert has. It’s not like having kids 24/7 for two days is miserable or that hard really. Our kids are good kids. Sure, they have their moments where they argue with one another over nothing (”I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you!) but for the most part, they are great kids.
Robert loves the kids to pieces. They are his life and that is part of the reason I fell for him but him having the kids 24/7 for 4 days straight…is too much for him to handle sometimes. HA His patience wavers to say the least. They came to have lunch with me a bit ago to get out of the house and Robert looks at me haggerdly and says, “I’m done.” What’s that Robert? You don’t like being a SAHD? What seems to be the problem?? Oh all right, I’ll cut the crap. I wouldn’t handle it well either. I love the kids, but I am not the person who wants kids full time. I never have been and I never will be. If it were to happen, I would adjust but as for now, um, not my cup of tea.
I think the last straw was when the garbage disposal wouldn’t work. Robert was all, “Why is this thing not working?,” and Sydney innocently says, “Well…I maybe dropped afewsequinsandsomebeads in it…” What’s that?! “I maybe dropped some sequins and beads in it….” I’m sure they just got up and jumped in the sink with their little bead legs right? Kids do these things. They just do. But Robert and I…not equipped to handle 20 of these types of things in a 2 day period. Let me rephrase that…not equipped to handle WITHOUT THE USE OF ALCOHOLIC BEVERAGES. Throw us some Bud Light and a glass of Pinot and we can conquer the world.
It will be a little strange when the house is all of the sudden quiet tonight after they leave. I’ll admit it…it’s kind of sad at first when they leave. It’s nice to go to bed when I want. It’s nice to walk around in my underwear if I want. It’s nice to sit on the couch and read without someone asking 50 questions about what I’m reading. In saying that though, the hugs at bedtime? Are great. The cuddling on the couch watching movies together as a family? Is great also. We honestly do have the best of both worlds in our opinions though - kids half time, US time half time.
But I have to admit….right now, some US time mixed in with a little ME time sounds pretty fucking fabulous….
Shared custody definitely has its perks. Even though it is also often a hassle.
Jess - I would definitely agree with that statement. A lot of bad mixed in with a lot of good. The good outweighs the bad fortunately but yeah….a hassle is putting it lightly to describe some days when I want to slam my head repeatedly into my lovely file cabinet in my office.
I completely understand, I just said to the BF yesterday that I am glad we do not have kids of our own yet. While I love the stepson to pieces we are on week 5 of his 6 week visit and I am ready for some alone time. He is a great kid and the hugs and kisses are the best but man do I want some peace and quiet! It is nice to have it both ways however I wish we had the son more.
Makes you appreacite the time you have when it is quiet and you can curl up on the couch, watch whatever you WANT to watch with a glass of wine in your hand. HEAVEN!
Stepmama - Six weeks?! Wowza. That would be a comedy routine for us for sure. The longest we have ever had the at a time is a week and I’m pretty sure we were ready to kill each other and everyone around us by the end of the week
Wow, you just reminded me that tonight I get to curl up on the couch, have some Pinot, and watch Bachelorette….with no one bugging me!!! Heaven is right!